Demolish Your Past
“Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny.” - Lao Tzu
Tear Down and Breakout
Demolition Time! Time to break down the old walls. Tear out the old wiring. This can be a free and liberating time. What are the habits you have developed over the years that are keeping you from realizing that dream life? What are the habits you have created that added the extra weight to your waistline? What are the things that you are actively doing every day that are sabotaging your success? Is there an easy thing you could stop doing today that would have an immediate and significant improvement to your life? Or are there several?
List 3 negative behaviors and pick one to eliminate for the next 7 days.
The smaller the better. Make it easy.
The most effective way to stop these behaviors is to replace them. Replacing bad habits with good ones helps make the transition easier. So what are the three new habits you would like to adopt and add to your routine?
List 3 new habits to start and pick one to replace the habit you chose to eliminate.
Just like the new habits will take time to implement getting rid of the negative patterns of behavior will take time as well. So be easy on yourself. Go slow. We are not trying to change the world in a day. We are just taking one small step in the right direction. Start small.
I started with a goal to start exercising 2 or 3 days a week for 30 minutes. When I continually struggled with that goal, I change the behavior to make it easier. I started playing basketball one night a week... That was a much better way to start. It allowed me to have a fun experience while getting the exercise and achieving the goal.
Make it easy. Make it fun. What are some challenging activities you enjoy and could add to your daily routine? What's something hard you could set as a goal to achieve? I always encourage everyone to tackle a marathon at some point in their life. Because everyone has the capability and you learn a lot about yourself in the process. Especially on race day…. But the challenge does not need to be physical, it can be related to any aspect of your life. It just needs to be hard.
List 3 Difficult challenges and pick one as a goal to achieve this year.
Lastly, for any of these changes in behavior to work or last requires fundamental shift in mindset. Once we have the ability to shift our perspective, a whole new world of possibilities present themselves. But without that shift in mindset, you will never be able to overcome the challenges you face and reach an enlighten state. What areas in your life would benefit from a fundamental shift in mindset. What areas are you willing to sacrifice your ego and pride for the sake of growth and improvement.
List 3 Areas in your life that you are willing to shift your mindset.
Now that you have the personal habits and behaviors coming together, you will have the template for crafting the work you love. In the next key "Rough Ins" you will take this new mindset and system for establishing habits and behaviors toward determining your career, your job and your lifestyle. Time to start building.....